This was a really interesting read! I haven't read Loveless yet but have meant to. And while I'm ace and quite repulsed, I do suspect I'd have similar feelings on some of the other points. I also prefer speculative fiction with rep being more shown through action than lots of conversation and analysis. (In my own writing I just...ignore the fact most people don't know the terms and let the characters interact naturally lol. Except for in certain cases where it might be explained in a small character scenes if it feels natural to come up) While direct rep is important and needed and can be very satisfying I do think passive rep is underrated in certain regards.